What makes a good lover? (MEN MUST READ)

As previously stated, I've had many flings, but only a few of them have made it unto my "Lovers" list.

A lover is not just a "fuck buddy". Lovers have a special connection, something beyond the physical act of love making. It's a totally different bond, something indescribable. One of the best lovers I've had (outside of my man) was my best friend. We're still best friends, and were having our "affair" until I got with my boyfriend (funny enough, he got us together). Lovers really never stop being lovers... only stop being physical. So what 4 things made him a wonderful lover/affair? Simple.

Caring.

The first thing I noticed was that he was caring. Of course, we were always best friends, and already had that relationship, but even in bed we kept that bond. He kept his arms wrapped around, stroked my back, and told me how he cared so much about me. He said just that, actually, he kept repeating "You mean so much to me, I care so much about you" and it was so special. He even used his arm to protect my head when we started to get rough and my head banged against the wall.

Bold.

He was bold about his intentions. I hate immature boys who beat around the bush. We're not 16, and we're not here to have a summer romance. He knew that. If you only wish for a sexual affair, make that noted. My lover started kissing my neck, and whispered "Just let me fuck you, damnit" and we were on the couch in 30 seconds flat. Don't waste time wooing, just whip it out.

Humorous.

You read that correctly. Maybe when you're making passionate love to the person you wish to spend the rest of you're life with, you're required to be gazing in one another's eyes, and caught up in the moment, but with you lover... it's all easy going fun. For the first few seconds of our first time, my lover and I couldn't get it right. Of course, with my man, we'd laugh, but we'd both be a little embarrassed, but with my best friend it was all fun. He says "It's your fault!" and we start bickering, then cracking up, all while he's on top of me in an awkward position. It was funny, and turn on all in one.

Respectful.

While he should respect you (and don't believe the bullshit about once you put out they don't respect you, ladies- that is pure bullshit, there is a difference between being the village whore and appreciating the act of love making), he should, more over, respect the agreement you both make upon becoming lovers. Once the relationship begin, it is, unless discussed otherwise, predetermined that you're engagement are to be kept private. I personally get a thrill out of staring at my best friend from across the room and smiling, knowing only the two of know that means that later, we're going to fuck like rabbits.

And there you have it. The 4 things all men need to know to become the ideal lover.